Be Yourself

How to be yourself

World is evolving, People are getting smarter, new innovations everyday. The society only accepts success. People forget to learn about being themselves in this competitive world.

Competition is at its peak, whether its education, jobs or state of living. Many people waste their lives in this rat race. We think that if we will get good grades, a good degree, a safe and a wealthy job, a good partner and many more luxuries we will finally be happy. But in this race we often forget to ask ourselves one question "Who are we?"

'Not Enough' these words can be motivating for some people, but can also raise a sense of self doubt in anyone's mind. Whenever you get strike by these words just think of the things you have right now and focus on them.

If you are like most people, Then you would have probably told yourself that things would be better. So in this article we will first focus on the Illusion that people create or set which makes their lives miserable and how to overcome these barriers

WHEN THE PROBLEM ARISES:

LIFE HAPPENS: we will study this problem in stages

1. CHILDHOOD: It is the most easiest phase of life. A child is full of life. He is not blinded by 'Money' which is the mere reason of half of the problems. He is truly innocent and non- corrupted.
A child do whatever he likes, without the care of society, and has full support of his loved ones, so no responsibilities and no problems. It is that part of life where we are what we meant to be.

2. TEENAGE: It is the most weird phase of life. The kid who was happy in the 1st stage gets hit by PUBERTY. He faces changes in his body, mind, taste, beliefs. He is easily influenced by others. The pressure of exams and good grades, the desire to attract a partner, dreams, failures, society pressures attacks him and makes him something else. That is the stage where we start to pretend, this can shape our character in both positive or negative ways. We try to seek opinion, acceptance of others.

3. ADULT HOOD: The ultimate Boss. Most difficult stage. Social pressures, money problems, job problems, age, expectations, family problems all hits us. We gets so busy in competition or being in rat race that we forget who we are. That is the stage of realization but at this point, it is too late. The individual finally stops and analysis himself and realizes that he failed to be what he was meant to be

What if he didn't try those things that led to his downfall. Its too late for him but we can tackle these problems by:

1. Do things that you like

Many people sacrifice their choice their talents, they think that they will get nowhere with them but the sad truth is that they never even tried. They get stuck in a normal job and try please their bosses. They fail miserably at life, some get lucky but many don't. So if you are good at something just pursue that. Just choose those decision which you will not regret in your old age. For a better understanding of this problem watch 'TAMASHA' it explains the similar problem

2. Forgive yourself

It's hard, because most of us have been getting angry at ourselves for all the things we do wrong all our lives. People get into trouble because they try so hard to be perfect and then they beat themselves up when they're not. Loving yourself means accepting that you're stuck inside your own imperfect skin. Just look in the mirror and say 'I love you and I forgive you' everyday.

3. Never underestimate yourself

I have come across many people with a great potential, but they lack confidence and many have made very bad choices in their lives. It all starts with "Self Doubt","Comparison". People will not stand for you if you can't stand for yourself. If you are great at something, exploit it, advertise it and implement it. Its never too late. People who you look up to had one thing in common "they all believed in themselves". Express yourself , Just get rid of the fear that stops you from expressing your point of view.

4. Don't aim to please others

It can be nice too but to a certain extent. Don't always aim to please everyone, do things for yourself as well every now and then.  Its healthier to pay attention to those people who care about you and genuinely mean you well. But for the negative company "Who cares what other people say?"

5. Accept your unique existence

Every individual is UNIQUE. You are what you are, you can't change that. People often compare themselves with others and they think that they can be something they aren't meant to be. Just don't ever achieve something to be someone else. Achieve something to be a better version of yourself.

6. Follow your Intuition 

This is probably one of the most important factor of being yourself. Just follow the nudges or little urges you get, they may lead you to a life full of awesomeness. It does not mean that you will not be wrong, you will be but when you follow your inner soul then you will always go in a positive direction. Just never ignore the power of your intuition, you never know.

7. Prioritize your health

Just eliminate all the junk you eat, sugar and do a basic workout everyday. Humans are meant to be doing physical activities its just the way of life, we cannot ignore that. So accept that and just take some time to make yourself healthy. Its not for people just for yourself. Join a gym it is the best investment you can do right now. Remember Eat to live, not live to Eat.

8. Go easy on social media

The thing that you can do to ruin your day is starting it with browsing Your social media. Looking into the perfect life of other people might ruin your day. It will create a feeling of comparison, jealousy and can create a very negative impact on your day. I am not saying that its entirely bad, but yes if you get effected by these things STOP immediately.

9. Accept your flaws

No human being is perfect, NO ONE. Everyone has their list of flaws. The rule here is to accept and embrace your flaws. If you will not accept it, the world will also not. Its is part of you, you cannot change it so the better solution is to love your flaws and make it your strong point.

10. Involve others in creating your own reality

Share your life with your loved ones. Living alone is not a solution. Your loved ones will shape your reality and will discover you and love you. You will literally ignore the world if you find those perfect people in your life.

Conclusion

I know its not easy to change but for a better life you need to follow these steps if you want to truly enjoy the quality of life you once did in your childhood phase. You live in a world where you have unlimited access to info and stories of many people. You can easily learn from their life, the decisions they made. You have solution for every problem, unlimited career choices, types of education. In the end its not the achievement that matter, only the way we lived the life matters. Stay happy and optimistic.

Some famous quotes on being yourself

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”
― Bernard M. Baruch

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
― Maya Angelou, Letter to My Daughter

Best be yourself, imperial, plain, and true. ― Robert Browning 

“Follow your inner moonlight; don't hide the madness.”
― Allen Ginsberg